Comments on: Lover or Spouse? http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/ Chinese in English Fri, 21 Nov 2008 06:52:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: My First Love and My first Lover Now | IfGoGo.com http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-366 My First Love and My first Lover Now | IfGoGo.com Wed, 19 Dec 2007 11:12:43 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-366 [...] Chinese in English « Lover or Spouse? Join Facebook finally » 2007-11 16 My First Love and My first Lover Now In：Normal [...] [...] Chinese in English « Lover or Spouse? Join Facebook finally » 2007-11 16 My First Love and My first Lover Now In：Normal [...]

]]> By: AngelaRong http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-311 AngelaRong Fri, 16 Nov 2007 03:30:25 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-311 As we all know, there is popular saying like this:"Marriage is grave of love".many people believe it.I have no right to say something about it .coz i am still single.but I will share one new saying which is from one of my friends who has been married more than 10years. once when we talked about this topic,she said when she became bride,she knew few things how to manage and maintain marriage.As time passed by, she understands marriage is not grave of love,it is garden of love.it is not the end but the begining. If marriage is a box,we usually thought that,when we married,the box is full.others supposed to do this n that for us,we are ready enough to face any problems n difficulties in our marriage. It is wrong way of thinking n selfish state of mind.Actually, when we married,the box is empty,we need spare no effort to add more things to this box in the rest of our lives.It is a learning course.It is a new journey.On the way of our journey,we should be more patient,initiative and positive,we should keep our oath deep in our mind. Now she lives happily with his lovely hubby n 12years old beautiful daughter. As we all know, there is popular saying like this:"Marriage is grave of love".many people believe it.I have no right to say something about it .coz i am still single.but I will share one new saying which is from one of my friends who has been married more than 10years.
once when we talked about this topic,she said when she became bride,she knew few things how to manage and maintain marriage.As time passed by, she understands marriage is not grave of love,it is garden of love.it is not the end but the begining.
If marriage is a box,we usually thought that,when we married,the box is full.others supposed to do this n that for us,we are ready enough to face any problems n difficulties in our marriage.
It is wrong way of thinking n selfish state of mind.Actually, when we married,the box is empty,we need spare no effort to add more things to this box in the rest of our lives.It is a learning course.It is a new journey.On the way of our journey,we should be more patient,initiative and positive,we should keep our oath deep in our mind.
Now she lives happily with his lovely hubby n 12years old beautiful daughter.

]]> By: Aw Guo http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-309 Aw Guo Tue, 13 Nov 2007 15:35:40 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-309 Thanks, anyway, ifgogo is still a very small, lovely blog. But i believe it's very interesting and full of happiness. Thanks, anyway, ifgogo is still a very small, lovely blog. But i believe it's very interesting and full of happiness.

]]> By: Aw Guo http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-308 Aw Guo Tue, 13 Nov 2007 15:33:47 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-308 okay, you are a big girl, or a woman now, hahaha -_- But as for me, I will never marry a girl who's not attracting me. okay, you are a big girl, or a woman now, hahaha -_-
But as for me, I will never marry a girl who's not attracting me.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-307 Lisa Tue, 13 Nov 2007 09:24:16 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-307 You are right that in some point of view, we can regards marriage as a contract! However, the two partners in family contract must be more close and richer of sensibility! lol You are right that in some point of view, we can regards marriage as a contract!
However, the two partners in family contract must be more close and richer of sensibility! lol

]]> By: Lisa http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-306 Lisa Tue, 13 Nov 2007 09:15:40 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-306 To many people, Family is a port, where they can moor the small boats and protect them from waves. Family is a garden where they can enjoy the flowers and have fresh air freely. .................. However, family can be even a battlefield or dustbin, where you can not even breathe! So, we need to pay more attention to set a good family and to maintain it very often. To many people,

Family is a port, where they can moor the small boats and protect them from waves.
Family is a garden where they can enjoy the flowers and have fresh air freely.
..................
However, family can be even a battlefield or dustbin, where you can not even breathe! So, we need to pay more attention to set a good family and to maintain it very often.

]]> By: Jerry http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-303 Jerry Mon, 12 Nov 2007 07:40:25 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-303 And by the way, I come here following a link in facebook... Nice place and nice authors here. And by the way, I come here following a link in facebook... Nice place and nice authors here.

]]> By: Jerry http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-302 Jerry Mon, 12 Nov 2007 07:38:56 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-302 To be loved and to love are both not that easy. :) To be loved and to love are both not that easy. :)

]]> By: Jia http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-300 Jia Mon, 12 Nov 2007 05:08:26 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-300 Hi, Lisa I should congratulate you for your steady marriage life! Definitely! For a 80s-born like me, I've been suffered once in love and I was totally in struggle then. I did couple conflict research and report last month for my communication theory class, but for sure, it's just theoretical. :) I have no idea about my future love or possible marriage. I don't care that much now. I gotta be influenced by feminism movement, haha. I want to sleep in my career and hobbies until someday my Mr. Right wake me up. Hi, Lisa
I should congratulate you for your steady marriage life! Definitely!
For a 80s-born like me, I've been suffered once in love and I was totally in struggle then.
I did couple conflict research and report last month for my communication theory class, but for sure, it's just theoretical. :)
I have no idea about my future love or possible marriage. I don't care that much now. I gotta be influenced by feminism movement, haha. I want to sleep in my career and hobbies until someday my Mr. Right wake me up.

]]> By: Lun http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lover-or-spouse/#comment-299 Lun Sun, 11 Nov 2007 20:58:32 +0000 http://www.ifgogo.com/31/lisalee1003/#comment-299 This is a really interesting post. Prior to my current relationship, I was in a 5 year relationship (from the age of 17 to 22). To this day, I still cannot really pin-point the exact reason why we broke up. In fact, on the surface, we were very much a happy couple. To answer Lisa's question in her post, I would say my ex and I knew each other extremely well but began to become complacent over time. But I guess relationships are complex beasts and sometimes things do not always work out as planned. I think as a whole, relationships (whether it be a marriage or de facto or otherwise) are greatly influenced by specific points in time in a person's life. As Angel said with her experiences, she knew her ex and her had differing goals and life paths. The important thing to remember is that people change over the years. A person you knew 5 years ago can gradually become a stranger. If a couple cannot adapt and change in harmony over the life of their relationship, it will ultimately lead to separation. This is a really interesting post.

Prior to my current relationship, I was in a 5 year relationship (from the age of 17 to 22). To this day, I still cannot really pin-point the exact reason why we broke up. In fact, on the surface, we were very much a happy couple. To answer Lisa's question in her post, I would say my ex and I knew each other extremely well but began to become complacent over time. But I guess relationships are complex beasts and sometimes things do not always work out as planned.

I think as a whole, relationships (whether it be a marriage or de facto or otherwise) are greatly influenced by specific points in time in a person's life. As Angel said with her experiences, she knew her ex and her had differing goals and life paths. The important thing to remember is that people change over the years. A person you knew 5 years ago can gradually become a stranger. If a couple cannot adapt and change in harmony over the life of their relationship, it will ultimately lead to separation.

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