Comments on: Is being too independent a good thing?

By: kimmykccarlotti

kimmykccarlotti — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 23:58:34 +0000

I LOVED this post.. I find being independent EXCELENT. It lets you go chasing your dreams without anyone else's opinion affect you and it lets you do what you think its right, rather than doing whatever everyone elses does.
However, its also true that we (independent people) need to find a balance because sometimes we wont realize that the people we love might think we don't care or we don't need them when in fact we do. So even if not within your own nature to be attached to someone, we need to learn how to express our love and feelings; so that way people around us can understand that being independent does not mean that you're careless about them.

By: Time

Time — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 02:10:53 +0000

From my perspective, at some extent, it was the result of lacking sense of security.
Perhaps, you absolutely need enough exchange your opinions that have been hidden in you deeply heart with your good friends .
But, take it easy.

By: Jeffye

Jeffye — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 02:16:15 +0000

Generally, I believe independence is not a bad character, even for a girl. Maybe, this would cause problems in a dating relationship or marriage. U know, men also like the feeling of being strong and important, especially in front of a cute girl he loves. Maybe you need a big man, and then your independent character will not be a problem at all. Take it easy and be yourself. Hopefully, u have a happy life.

By: Lechuan Huang

Lechuan Huang — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 00:34:35 +0000

I guess that there's no break-proof relationship, which means we all have to work hard everyday to maintain it. It's not rocket-science, though. Good luck :)

By: Monica

Monica — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 14:38:58 +0000

Actually, i'm in a new relationship now. Before we were together, my bf told me that he do appreciate my independence. Generally we're doing fine, but sometimes we still got problams, and i'm wondering does it cause by my strong characters or we just need time to find out the right way of getting along with each other....

By: Lechuan Huang

Lechuan Huang — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 10:38:17 +0000

Can't see your pic...

Anyway, by definition, 'too' something is always bad. It is bliss/sadness that a otherwise perfectly independent person cannot stand being alone emotionally. Some people have it that people behave cold and reserved in front of strangers because they feel insecure within. I'm not sure whether it applies in your case. But cheer up! The world is big enough for you to find a bf that fits with your independence/dependence pattern. Have faith and keep looking.

By: Elliott Ng

Elliott Ng — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 03:37:09 +0000

Nice to have you writing on IfGoGo!

I agree with Aw.

Any virtue, such as "independence", can be a fault if taken to an extreme. Perhaps you should consider how you feel when you are "interdependent" with others. Do you feel at risk? Do you feel like they have some power over you? What feelings does it create? Perhaps you should put yourself into situations where you are not independent and force yourself to stay in that position for a while to explore how you react. Over time, you can make a more conscious decision about how independent you want to be, and not be controlled by you past and your upbringing.

By: Aw Guo

Aw Guo — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 09:47:25 +0000

Find a balance!