If I wanna get married before 27, I prefer to get engaged half a year before the wedding. Of course, I surely want to be with the guy at least one year in advance before the engagement. Before we start our relationship, I need a few months to get to know him and make sure I really like him. A season to two seasons time will be okay! In this case, which means, I need to meet the guy by the time when I’m 25. However, the problem is how to find my Mr. Right? I’m 23 now, and there’s only one more years left.
I’m not worry about this and no rush for this too… I haven’t think about marriage seriously right now. I don’t even know which type of guys I want to be with for the rest of my life. In my little heart, I don’t want to get married. What a selfish girl I am! Parents, they all wish their children can find their true love and be happy with their life. They also want grandchildren.
What if my happiness is living my own life? No stress for child, no stress for family financial problem… All I need is to get a suitable job, doing some businesses, earning little money, having trips every year, making friends with whoever I want. That’ll be fun. Yes, it’s my perfect dreamy lifestyle. I know it’s just a dream. One day I’ll definitely be lonely. No friends to share my sadness with, no family to be with in Christmas.... When I get older, I might not be able to see words clearly, I might not be able to do work myself…that’ll be very sad scenes.
You're not alone. I'm still wondering how I'll ever find my true love. I'm already 20 years old and have never been in a relationship!
If you really NEED to get married, I'm a single guy looking for Ms Wonderful. if you fit the bill, that is, if you're young , energetic, sensual, and above all else, INTELLIGENT, then contact me for a long lasting, faithful relationship.
You have a precise schedule for relationship but love can not be planned in any way.
I know.... so does the life after marriage....
The way you say it makes it sound you're only thinking about it because it'll be more convenient in the long run. There is help for when you're older, and you'll always have your friends and your extended family for the holidays you mentioned.
False.
When friends get married, have kids, time to 'hang' diminishes drastically, from weekend freak fests to once a week hang outs... Extended families will also have their own families to attend to as well. Single life can be lonely (or rewarding), depending on what kind of person you are)
You are not alone.We all face the marriage problem.
Marriage is a wonderful thing. Just make sure you take your time and find the right guy. Talk about everything under the sun. Make sure your goals are in line and your beliefs are the same. (notice I didn't say cultures!) Then get married. Take your time though. Enjoy your young single life!
People change! Today you want this..but who knows when you're going to change? Please don't tell me not to think too much..just do it....or whatever...
Just pick some dresses and get into the fitting room. You will know what you wanna buy, otherwise you will know that you want nothing.
Ya... except...I don't want to know about it~~~
I believe lots of boys would love you, girl~
Thanks!
But I don't think it's about love...
Yeah, BOYS. I'm a MAN, not a BOY, I'm American, White, Middle-class. Still no longer a BOY. Boy's just want SEX, not LOVE. I am well experienced at the art of "Making Love."
Dear Ruby,
I have read your post and felt happy that you have alot of good things in your little pure heart for the whole life. It seems you are caring to all and everybody cares for you.
Take your life differently...You dont know that what is going to be happen next moment. Just work hard and enjoy the present day.
Love is a precious thing and relationship depends solely on understading. Just wait for the right moment, certainly it will come for you with blossoms of roses...just accept it by your heart and never use your mind...if,still you haven't fell in it....accept one of my suggestions...."Somethings, most important ones for a girl to be a girl, should be kept as a gift for giving to your soul partner after marriage....
believe me it will strengthen your relationship and give it the piousness..
Thank you so much! I really like your saying!
Well, never mention that. I appreciated your writing with free heart !
Hahaha... Come to canada, we could use a few more asians hahaha. Jkjk.
But seriously, ugh, I feel the same way, when I'm done studying here in China I'll be 25-28 years old... and then go back to my home country to study some more. I've been told that Doctors shouldn't even think about marriage until 30, as they're too young before then, but it doesn't stop me from wondering the what 'if' aspects.
I wouldn't worry about the Marriage time aspect, but I would be worried about finding the right guy at age 25. Takes a while you know. At least you didn't plan exactly what month and year you're are getting married at like my friends haha. You're still in good shape, and if that's truly what you look like, you will have no problem, I assure you.
Girls are all worrying about marriage.. :-)
What a hot post for IfGoGo.com :) Haven't seen such a hot one for long time!!!
They dont worry about the marriage. The worry about the things, about to happen after that. They worry about the possibility of understanding with husband. They worry about the long and happy relationship. They worry about their carrier and coordination of it with the husband's job. So many things....you know...
(The only solution for all of this is "Carpe Diem" : means "Enjoy the present and don't worry about the future, as in It's a beautiful day, so forget tomorrow's test")
Carpe Diem, 及时行乐 :)
*sighs*
Carpe diem quam minimum credula postero – "Seize the day, trusting as little as possible in the future.", or for short, Carpe Diem is "Seize the day", in latin.
i want to get marrige with you becues i dont have a wife i am from afghanistan
i am grauduat from univercity now i work in the organisition
Dear Ahmad,
there are alot of responses in this post, I dont know with whom you want to be indulged in a holy relationship of marriage. If a lady, its OK, you can propose and she will see the pros and cons but for gentleman you will have to move USA .. .... ...............
PS: please specify your organization it would be best for a lady/gentleman to think bout u.
God knows all! That is my sigh with smile after 32 years marriage...
You can't choose the way but you can handle your footprint.
You can't choose human life but you can marry a right one.
If you want to go fast, you go alone, but if you want to go far, you go with company...
that's a very good saying... thank you!
Dear mme,
This post was incomplete without your precious comment!
You said it!
Moving steps with conscience,
Choosing life mate with confidence,
Putting steps together...forever.....
It’s the "togetherness" and "understanding" that matters the most in married life...
All relations in this world fade away, but the relation of husband and wife longs forever.
oh well...maybe you're right...but to me...nothing lasts forever...
Ruby, LOVE lasts forever!
May be you are right..!
Time runs faster than relationships and as far as I saw in to the future, no relatioship in this universe other than the "husband and wife" will long forever...
Finally you will have to accept it...
Not good.
Now I am single, And just want to working for my biz before 30, then handle this stuff...Maybe not true love then...FT,I would nerver having girl friend, if I keep in-house.... 25 now~~
Good article.
haha, interesting post:)
It's good to have a plan for future, but it might not work for relationship. Cuz love always comes when u r least expecting it, and you can't be 100% sure the guy if is the right one for you even you get married, you need to spend the rest of you life to find it out.
Anyway, good luck and wish the guy you like also feels you in the same way:)