The famous British author Wills Wilde once said: "To love oneself is the beginning of lifelong romance." What a significant thesis it is, by which we can drill down deeply to ourselves to see our real natures.
Then, what belongs to oneself when one is in love? The woman/man whom one is loving? No. I don't think so. I believe it is only the feelings, passion and enjoyment of that one during one's loving course.
To go ahead along this thinking, we can understand why one would leave that woman/man he/she loved best before? Why one could betray his/her oath made in hotness? Because the feelings was changed, the passion was gone and the enjoyment was replaced by that with other person.
I am not to say whether this kind of phenomenon is good or bad. I feel quite confused with it. On one hand, I hope all the couples can keep their love and marriage long to the end. On the other hand, I think people have the rights to update their feelings and passions, so that human being will keep their libido, vitality and creativity.
Alas, then there might unavoidably come the victim of former love.......
I think of this thesis due to the story of Zhang Bin and Hu Siwei...
libido :)
Zhang Bin and HuZiwei's story is so complicated. No one knows what happened. And even if we know something, we cannot judge it. For good or bad, we can only judge ourselves.
Anyway, It is Zhang and Hu's story that made me think of Wills Wilde's this saying.....
But my post is relating one of the most important natures of human being. That is "To love oneself". It should be the deep reasons for a lot of love stories...
anyway, Lisa, you could just "Reply to this comment" :)
That makes the comments more clear!
I got you!
I knew this but didn't do due to carelessness, lol!
Hello, Lisa.
I kinda disagree with you. I think love is one's faith, and love is only. If one day my only love disappeared or something unhappy happened, I think what I'll do is keeping my love for her.
Hi, Max,
I think we are talking about different things, even though the two things are conjoint. What you mean is to love other, say your lover, you wife or some woman, while what I mean is to love oneself, so called "Zi Lian" in Chinese Pinyin.
That is why two lovers could fight as Zhang and Hu. If Zhang Loves Hu better than he loves himself, He would not turn to other woman, who makes Zhang feel better than Hu did. And if Hu loves Zhang better than she loves herself, she would not do that battle. She might simply keep her love to Zhang forever, as you said above...
Is it logical?
I think you mean Oscar Wilde (everyone's favorite British hedonistic homosexual), not Wills Wilde. I understand his quote as representing hedonistic narcissism that has little to do with a person's affections or relationship to anyone else but themselves.
Oh，yes!
Kai, Thanks for your correction!
"Because the feelings was changed, the passion was gone and the enjoyment was replaced by that with other person."
The world changes. Love changes. Everybody changes.
Love is not eternal. When the one you love changes, you must change as well. If you didn't notice the change or you didn't want to change, he/she moves on, and you get lost.