Among my friends and acquaintance, there are so many couples divorced after their N years' passionate marriage. This pushed me to think about why and how a good marriage came down......

There are so many reasons and some background what make such things happen, however, I believe the key for keeping a marriage is to know the difference between love and marriage.

Love (I mean only love to person, and hereinafter) is a personal feelings. You may fall love into someone without any reason or sense. Love is after all love, while marriage is mostly responsibility legally, though there should be some love feelings in which sex is the core.

In terms of this point, it is the personality and the matched natures of a couple that can support them for a long time marriage. When the couple in a hard time or they are facing something inexpectant, they can work together to fix it. Then, here comes the point. Do you know your girlfriend/boyfriend deeply and fully before you decide to marry her/him? Do you think she/he suits you and can struggle together with you for a long life?

No one will say "No" when he/she is in crazy love before marriage. However, I have found so many happy couples fighting after a few or many years' marriage, and then marriage destroyed.

My husband was not my lover when we got married, but now he is my best friend and buddy. Surely he is my lovely hubby! Why? we knew each other when I was 4 and he was 5, when we moved in a same military courtyard and happened to be neighbors. We grew up in a same environment and had similar education, etc. In our long marriage, we had some quarrels, but no matters relating money. lol

I am not giving a lecture here on how to find a good spouse, but I want to share my big experience with young people on how two people who have had a similar background can create a long marriage.

I am looking forward to your comments and we can have a discussion